12 Toxic Thoughts You Need To Drop For A Better Life

12 Toxic Thoughts You Need To Drop For A Better Life

为了一个更好的生活而应摒弃的12种有毒思想

One of my mottoes is “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life!” I’m a big believer that our thoughts and emotions shape our experiences. The problem is that most people aren’t even aware of their negative thoughts. It’s almost like they have just become a h abit, so it seems normal to them. Here are 12 common toxic thoughts that you need to drop in order to have a better life:

“改变你的想法就能改变你的生活!”这是我的座右铭之一。我深信一个人的想法和情绪能改变他们对事物的体验。问题在于大多数人甚至觉察不到他们脑中的负面思想,好似它们已经成为一个习惯。下面是我列举的“为了更好的生活应该抛弃的12种有毒思想”。

1. Thinking that you are a victim.

You’re not a victim. So stop blaming other people or your circumstances for your problems. Just because you don’t like where you are now doesn’t mean that you can’t take personal responsibility to change it for the better. So get rid of that victim-mentality because it doesn’t help anything. In fact, it acts as an obstacle to success. Realize that you, and only you, are responsible for your destiny.

1.认为自己是受害者

你不是受害者。不要因为自己的问题责备他人或环境。你不喜欢现在的处境并不意味着你不能改变以求更好的境遇。所以不要存有受害心理因为它对你没有丝毫帮助,还会成为你成功路上的阻碍。一定要意识到只有你自己能为自己的命运负责。

2. Thinking that you can change other people.

You can’t. I had to learn this the hard way. There was a time in my life when I thought I could “motivate” and “inspire” people to be their best selves. It took me a while to realize that the only thing that can change other people is themselves. If they don’t want to change—or don’t know how—then all of your efforts will be wasted. So don’t worry about other people. If you don’t like them “as is,” then you have the choice to not hang out with them anymore. But you don’t have the right to change them.

2.认为自己能改变他人

你不能改变他人。我走了很多弯路才意识到这点。我曾以为我能“激励”人们做最好的自己。过了很长段时间我发现唯一能使他人改变的是他们自己。如果一个人不想改变或不知道怎么改,那么你所做的一切努力都是白费的。所以不要为别人担心了。如果你不喜欢他们现在的行为习惯等,你可以选择不跟他们来往,而你没有权利去改变他们。3. Thoughts that constant ly resist “What Is.”

Some things you can change. In fact, a LOT of things you can change. You can lose weight. You can find a better job. You can go back to school. You can work on your marriage. But there are some things you can’t change. Those things are simply “what is.” You can’t change that your boss is a jerk. You can change jobs, but you can’t change your boss. You can’t change the fact that you have to pay rent or your mortgage. But you can stop resisting it. Resisting the unchangeable does nothing more than frustrate you and make you miserable. So change what you can, and accept what you can’t.

认为自己能抵制事实

有一些事情你是可以改变的。其实,有很多事情你都能改变。你可以减肥,你可以找一个更好的工作。你可以回学校读书。你可以好好经营婚姻。但是有些事情你是无力改变的。那些

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