12 Toxic Thoughts You Need To Drop For A Better Life
One of my mottoes is “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life!” I’m a big believer that our thoughts and emotions shape our experiences. The problem is that most people aren’t even aware of their negative thoughts. It’s almost like they have just become a h abit, so it seems normal to them. Here are 12 common toxic thoughts that you need to drop in order to have a better life:
1. Thinking that you are a victim.
You’re not a victim. So stop blaming other people or your circumstances for your problems. Just because you don’t like where you are now doesn’t mean that you can’t take personal responsibility to change it for the better. So get rid of that victim-mentality because it doesn’t help anything. In fact, it acts as an obstacle to success. Realize that you, and only you, are responsible for your destiny.
2. Thinking that you can change other people.
You can’t. I had to learn this the hard way. There was a time in my life when I thought I could “motivate” and “inspire” people to be their best selves. It took me a while to realize that the only thing that can change other people is themselves. If they don’t want to change—or don’t know how—then all of your efforts will be wasted. So don’t worry about other people. If you don’t like them “as is,” then you have the choice to not hang out with them anymore. But you don’t have the right to change them.
你不能改变他人。我走了很多弯路才意识到这点。我曾以为我能“激励”人们做最好的自己。过了很长段时间我发现唯一能使他人改变的是他们自己。如果一个人不想改变或不知道怎么改，那么你所做的一切努力都是白费的。所以不要为别人担心了。如果你不喜欢他们现在的行为习惯等，你可以选择不跟他们来往，而你没有权利去改变他们。3. Thoughts that constant ly resist “What Is.”
Some things you can change. In fact, a LOT of things you can change. You can lose weight. You can find a better job. You can go back to school. You can work on your marriage. But there are some things you can’t change. Those things are simply “what is.” You can’t change that your boss is a jerk. You can change jobs, but you can’t change your boss. You can’t change the fact that you have to pay rent or your mortgage. But you can stop resisting it. Resisting the unchangeable does nothing more than frustrate you and make you miserable. So change what you can, and accept what you can’t.